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Win Back Ex Boyfriend Girlfriend Husbands Wives - Simply and Quickly - By: Mark Myers, Posted on: 2008-08-07

Are you completely sure you want to do this? You can win back ex girlfriends, husbands, boyfriends, wives, whatever it is you lost. All you need is to understand a few psychological phenomena. There are certain things you can do and say, that make it nearly impossible for someone you have a connection with to withstand.
First, some history on your relationship. If you were an exclusive couple for less than 6 months, you need to just move on.. Let it go, and find someone else. If you had longer than 6 months together, you can win back an ex with a proper plan.
Your ex does not want to be alone, believe this and trust it. Humans are pack animals, and they need acceptance by nature. It is not too late if they have invested time and emotion with you. Life is full of paradoxes, and here is a big one. If you want to win back an ex, you have to pretend you do not want them.
What I mean is this, call your ex and tell them you agree with the break up and it was a good idea. Then do not explain, do not go further, do not elaborate, and whatever you do, do not tell them you want to be friends. They must believe it is totally over in your eyes.
This next step is, make no contact for three to four weeks. No comments on MySpace, asking their friends about them, email, texting,nothing. Research has shown that loneliness peaks at about three weeks. This is when they are the most vulnerable. If they choose to contact you in that time frame, no problem, and most will, but you must not make first contact for three to four weeks, maybe even a little longer if you acted poorly at first.
Now call them and invite them for an innocent rendezvous, like coffee or lunch. If you keep it innocent and on their turf, they know they can get away quick and are more likely to agree. When you meet keep it light. Pretend you are meeting an old friend to catch up, keep it simple. Make your ex laugh, the sooner the better, then they will relax. Since they haven't seen you, they have forgotten most of your faults and only remember the fun you had together.
Have your ex remember some of the pleasant memories you had together. This is important. You know exactly how your ex talks. Remember the speed and tone they use. Do they use picture words, sound words, or feeling words? (Like I see (picture) what you're saying. I hear (sound) what you're saying. What your saying feels good (feeling).) Use these same kinds of words back to them in the same pitch, tone, and speed that they do.
Make yourself a mirror to their body movements and language. If they have their arms crossed, cross yours. If they use their right hand to make a gesture, use your left. But be subtle about it. Breath at the same rate that they do. After a couple minutes of pacing them, it is time to test and lead. Touch your glass, and see if they touch theirs. If they do, you have built enough rapport to clinch them back into your life.
Take it slow and learn more about human nature, you only have three weeks to learn everything you need to know. Develop a plan and learn all the secret psychological tricks of the trade.

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